How To Know If Your New Man Is Into You
After dating for sometime, it’s common for a woman to wonder if the new boyfriend is for real. When this stage of doubt is ignored, chances are the relationship will last longer but leaves the woman realizing it was a one-sided love affair. If you’re unsure about the depth of his fondness and love, then it’s best to know if he’s looking ahead to a lasting relationship with you. Even if both of you confirmed there is an “official” bond and commitment, there are ways to know if your new man is someone who will make you happy and secure. After all, you want to be assured of your role in his life and what his long-term goals are for the relationship.
Here are some ideas that could enlighten you if your new man is truly, madly and deeply into you:
He uses his phone to get in touch. With the gadget that everyone uses for communication nowadays, you can determine how he’s putting effort into the relationship. He calls you up and sends you SMS – regularly and on surprising moments. Men made of sweeter stuff likes calling their girl after waking up or before retiring to bed. They check if you’re eaten your meals, ask for dinner plans or just to check on how you’re doing. On the other hand, if your new boyfriend just calls or sends text messages when he wants to have intimate moments, then that’s just so wrong. He wants just one thing and is not so into you.
He introduces you to his close social circle. A man who’s proud of his girlfriend would want the people special to him know her. So if you get pulled to a family dinner or he wants you to join the boys for a barbecue, then that’s a great sign. But if he’s constantly putting off such events and yet spend time with his friends and family, then he doesn’t want you to be identified as “the girlfriend.” He takes you as just another girl he dates – nothing more.
He flaunts the relationship via social media. After a few weeks of dating, a guy who’s really into the girl will put up something on his social media account that says so. Sure, it may not be immediately “single” to “in a relationship with…” But it will soon get there if he’s really serious about you and the relationship. More so, he will tweet or update his blog, post pictures and even update his status at Facebook finally. But if after two months or so and he’s not using the social media to announce that something special is going on, that’s it. Nothing special to him is going on and only you were thinking there is.
He looks forward to dates and moments being with you. If you’re always getting giddy and expressing constantly that you want to have dinner, watch a movie or have a roadtrip with him, that’s natural. But if it’s always you who’s planning these events, then it’s called a wakeup call: he’s not into you as much. While he may agree to most of your ideas for dates and moments together, it doesn’t mean his whole heart is into it. If so, he’d be the one doing some planning and finding time to be with you.
These are simple signs to spot on your new boyfriend if you want to really know. The thing is that it might take a while and some effort, particularly a sit-down conversation, to really know what’s in his heart. Some guys may decide much later if he’s serious about commitment. But it always helps to know earlier so that you avoid the devastating heartbreak later!